How to Cope with Losing a Loved One
Since I was a child I have always heard the seniors in my family say that “We are born to die”. I never payed much attention to that statement and always thought it was just how they dealt with the loss of loved ones since they’ve experienced it time and time again. For me losing loved ones has always been a feeling of puzzlement and confusion. Its like coming to the reality of not seeing the person any more is hard to cope with and seems so impossible. There’s no one right way to get through this and we all deal with it differently. Recently my last living grandparent passed. She was my dad’s mother and his last living parent. As such it seemed so shocking and I felt more pain for him to have lost his parent. That’s a feeling no child wants to ever feel no matter how likely it may be to happen. In this experience I felt so much hurt and felt I had to be there to comfort my dad.
As they say, out of every situation we should find the good. In this case I got to travel and see my dad who I hadn’t seen in a while and got to really get to know a part of my family that I didn’t previously know. It was such an enlightening experience and showed me that there was a reason for everything that happens and we must just be willing to go with it and learn from it. So in my personal experience I wanted to share with you some ways I have learned to deal with a stressful situation like this.
Here’s a great time to bond with others and take your mind off this trying and emotional time. We all need somebody and this is a perfect time to be open to talking with family and friends.
For me a great distraction was working on my journal and other hobbies like reading. Another great distraction for me was listening to music. It brought back so many great memories. It lightened the situation and pushed the positivity to the fore front of my thoughts.
Here was a key opportunity for me to see that there is a higher being called God who has mercy upon us. During this trying time my grandmother had suffered a long and hard fight and God rescued her and relieved her of all the stress and sickness that had overcome her. Wow that’s an awesome thought that when we can no longer handle the fight God picks up and protects us and makes the decision to either relieve us of the trials and tribulations or end the suffering we are facing permanently.
Although we all deal with this trying time differently I would like you to know that it is true that out of this situation some good will come.
Until next time stay focused and don’t be afraid to learn or do something new. We only have one life and with it we should live each day as if it is our last day because tomorrow isn’t guaranteed.